I said not quite true, because if either one willing to understand each other more and be tolerance, Men can be from Venus or Women might be from Mars as well.
Men is a creature who likes to isolate themselves while problem occur. They rarely share their problems, as they like to solve problems by themselves, only in desperation they'll ask for help, when the problem can't be solve. Men value power, competency, efficiency and acheivement.
Women is different. When they have problems, they like to share. They prefer to talk about problems but not really seeking for solutions. What they need is someone willing to listen and share with. What they need is comfort.
"Most men have little awareness of how important it is to a woman to feel supported by someone who cares. Women are happy when they believe their needs will be met. When a woman is upset, overwhelmed, confused, exhausted, or hopeless what she needs most is simple companionship. She needs to feel she is not alone. She needs to feel loved and cherished."
"How important is closeness, intimacy and sharing are to women. Woman needs is someone to listen. Through sharing her feelings she begins to remember that she is worthy of love and that her needs will be fulfilled. Doubt and mistrust melt away. Her tendency to be compulsive relaxes as she remembers that she is worthy of love-she doesn't have to earn it."
Thursday, January 29, 2009
Beyonce - If I Were A Boy
If I Were A Boy lyrics
If I were a boy even just for a day
I'd roll out of bed in the morningAnd throw on what I wanted
And go drink beer with the guys
And chase after girlsI'd kick it with who I wanted
And I'd never get confronted for it'
Cause they stick up for me
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
'Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
'Cause he's taking you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
If I were a boy
I would turn off my phone
Tell everyone it's broken
So they'd think that I was sleeping alone
I'd put myself first
And make the rules as I go
'Cause I know that she'd be faithfu
lWaiting for me to come home, to come home
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
'Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
'Cause he's taking you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
It's a little too late for you to come back
Say it's just a mistake
Think I'd forgive you like that
If you thought I would wait for you
You thought wrong
But you're just a boy
You don't understand
And you don't understand, oh
How it feels to love a girl
Someday you wish you were a better man
You don't listen to her
You don't care how it hurts
Until you lose the one you wanted
'Cause you're taking her for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
But you're just a boy
If I were a boy even just for a day
I'd roll out of bed in the morningAnd throw on what I wanted
And go drink beer with the guys
And chase after girlsI'd kick it with who I wanted
And I'd never get confronted for it'
Cause they stick up for me
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
'Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
'Cause he's taking you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
If I were a boy
I would turn off my phone
Tell everyone it's broken
So they'd think that I was sleeping alone
I'd put myself first
And make the rules as I go
'Cause I know that she'd be faithfu
lWaiting for me to come home, to come home
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
'Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
'Cause he's taking you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
It's a little too late for you to come back
Say it's just a mistake
Think I'd forgive you like that
If you thought I would wait for you
You thought wrong
But you're just a boy
You don't understand
And you don't understand, oh
How it feels to love a girl
Someday you wish you were a better man
You don't listen to her
You don't care how it hurts
Until you lose the one you wanted
'Cause you're taking her for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
But you're just a boy
Broken Heart
2009年，对我来说真的很难忘。2008年尾，以为会有一个新的体验，结果是一个大大的教训和体验。
别人时常说，要找到一个爱你多比你爱他多的人，可是有这样容易吗？
我找不到，所以我就相信‘只要有付出，就会有结果’。就这样，一个笨蛋无条件地付出，忍耐，因为她相信他会有醒觉的一天，然后就会有幸福快乐的日子过了。
2009年，我也终于见识到什么叫‘死性不改’(A leopard never change it’s skin)。
无论我多么地努力，想把这个大冰山给溶解掉，可是我最终还是失败了。它（我觉得用“它”会比较适合，因为听过我和它的故事的朋友都觉得它不是人）。它还是一样的自私自利，傲慢，大男人，不可一世和不懂得尊重别人。
经过两个月的艰辛日子，我最终放弃了。我宁愿伤心几个星期，也不要长期的痛苦。
我真的不懂这个人在想什么。我无法看透，也不能了解。我觉得我很失败。
在一起的时候能够感觉到他的存在，可是当我们分开后，我就觉得他很陌生。
我们还是朋友的时候，它ＳＭＳ我的次数会满多的。可是开始后，我们没有ＳＭＳ，谈电话也很少。它的理由是“喜欢一个人放在心上就好了，不用每天谈电话”。“喜欢一个人放在心上”这句话是向死了的人说的！也时常拿我来跟它的前任女友们想比，可是我从来没有拿它来和我的前任男友比。我的朋友们，连我那位那么冷静的室友，都叫我趁早结束了这段感情，我就是说“再给多一点时间看看吧．．．＂
它不喜欢我和男生朋友一起，也不喜欢我和朋友出去。可是有可能吗？它可以把朋友放第一，而我就要成为一个上完课就回房间待的人。 每次和它说我的想法时，本来是要它的支持，可是它就一大桶冷水给泼过来，说什么“你好像一只脱绳子的猴子出街逛，对我来说那些只是小事可是你就兴奋”。
一个月前就越好了新年前的周末见面。经过了漫长的等待，星期五我迫不及待早上九搭火车去ＫＬ了。在到达目的地的４５分钟前，它竟然ＳＭＳ我说它虽然来，可是星期六早上就要和他的朋友一起回家，因为没有车票回家（我不懂是谁帮它去查有没有车票），他的车也借给了弟弟载女朋友回家乡。它还说，它已经尽力了空出时间来见我。如果它有尽力，那在早一个月就买好回家的车票，谁不懂新年前几天的车票很难买到的？最过分的，就是它说“如果你还没有出来那就不要出来好了。”一个月没有见面了，如果它是喜欢我的话，那应该就很想见我才对，为什么会说出这些话？见面的前几天，它也说“我们没有话题了”。一对刚开始的情侣，竟然没有话题了。
其实星期六，它可以跟它的家人一起回家乡的，它的家人在下午才离开。可是，它还是选择了它的朋友，没有多陪我一会儿，早上就离开了。计划中，星期六的时间都是给了它的，结果，我拿着很重的行李，一个人走去找我的家人。一个人逛街，吃饭，看戏．．．
这个新年，是自从爸爸去世后的那个新年，最令人伤心的那个。它没有ＳＭＳ祝福我新年快乐，也没有打电话。家人说它根本不是人。我整个新年都闷闷不乐，就是因为它。穿再漂亮的衣服也没用，都掩饰不到我的心情，脸上是没有笑容的。
两天前它打电话给我，然后问我周末要不要去ＫＬ见面，我说好。昨天早上我问它是不是说真的，它整天没有恢复。今天我终于忍不住打电话给他，他没有接。晚上打了好几通电话它也没有接，然后它干脆把电话给关掉了。它的ＭＳＮ是Ａｖａｉｌａｂｌｅ的。虽然它这不是第一次这样对我，可是我终于忍无可忍了！不要见面就说不要啊，为什么逃避？它可能过生活过得很潇洒，可是在另一边的人就快要激死了！为什么我要时常为了这个不负责任的混蛋伤心难过？我做了决定这个是结局了。
伤心是必然的．．．也是那老土的一句话，时间会把伤口复原的．．．
别人时常说，要找到一个爱你多比你爱他多的人，可是有这样容易吗？
我找不到，所以我就相信‘只要有付出，就会有结果’。就这样，一个笨蛋无条件地付出，忍耐，因为她相信他会有醒觉的一天，然后就会有幸福快乐的日子过了。
2009年，我也终于见识到什么叫‘死性不改’(A leopard never change it’s skin)。
无论我多么地努力，想把这个大冰山给溶解掉，可是我最终还是失败了。它（我觉得用“它”会比较适合，因为听过我和它的故事的朋友都觉得它不是人）。它还是一样的自私自利，傲慢，大男人，不可一世和不懂得尊重别人。
经过两个月的艰辛日子，我最终放弃了。我宁愿伤心几个星期，也不要长期的痛苦。
我真的不懂这个人在想什么。我无法看透，也不能了解。我觉得我很失败。
在一起的时候能够感觉到他的存在，可是当我们分开后，我就觉得他很陌生。
我们还是朋友的时候，它ＳＭＳ我的次数会满多的。可是开始后，我们没有ＳＭＳ，谈电话也很少。它的理由是“喜欢一个人放在心上就好了，不用每天谈电话”。“喜欢一个人放在心上”这句话是向死了的人说的！也时常拿我来跟它的前任女友们想比，可是我从来没有拿它来和我的前任男友比。我的朋友们，连我那位那么冷静的室友，都叫我趁早结束了这段感情，我就是说“再给多一点时间看看吧．．．＂
它不喜欢我和男生朋友一起，也不喜欢我和朋友出去。可是有可能吗？它可以把朋友放第一，而我就要成为一个上完课就回房间待的人。 每次和它说我的想法时，本来是要它的支持，可是它就一大桶冷水给泼过来，说什么“你好像一只脱绳子的猴子出街逛，对我来说那些只是小事可是你就兴奋”。
一个月前就越好了新年前的周末见面。经过了漫长的等待，星期五我迫不及待早上九搭火车去ＫＬ了。在到达目的地的４５分钟前，它竟然ＳＭＳ我说它虽然来，可是星期六早上就要和他的朋友一起回家，因为没有车票回家（我不懂是谁帮它去查有没有车票），他的车也借给了弟弟载女朋友回家乡。它还说，它已经尽力了空出时间来见我。如果它有尽力，那在早一个月就买好回家的车票，谁不懂新年前几天的车票很难买到的？最过分的，就是它说“如果你还没有出来那就不要出来好了。”一个月没有见面了，如果它是喜欢我的话，那应该就很想见我才对，为什么会说出这些话？见面的前几天，它也说“我们没有话题了”。一对刚开始的情侣，竟然没有话题了。
其实星期六，它可以跟它的家人一起回家乡的，它的家人在下午才离开。可是，它还是选择了它的朋友，没有多陪我一会儿，早上就离开了。计划中，星期六的时间都是给了它的，结果，我拿着很重的行李，一个人走去找我的家人。一个人逛街，吃饭，看戏．．．
这个新年，是自从爸爸去世后的那个新年，最令人伤心的那个。它没有ＳＭＳ祝福我新年快乐，也没有打电话。家人说它根本不是人。我整个新年都闷闷不乐，就是因为它。穿再漂亮的衣服也没用，都掩饰不到我的心情，脸上是没有笑容的。
两天前它打电话给我，然后问我周末要不要去ＫＬ见面，我说好。昨天早上我问它是不是说真的，它整天没有恢复。今天我终于忍不住打电话给他，他没有接。晚上打了好几通电话它也没有接，然后它干脆把电话给关掉了。它的ＭＳＮ是Ａｖａｉｌａｂｌｅ的。虽然它这不是第一次这样对我，可是我终于忍无可忍了！不要见面就说不要啊，为什么逃避？它可能过生活过得很潇洒，可是在另一边的人就快要激死了！为什么我要时常为了这个不负责任的混蛋伤心难过？我做了决定这个是结局了。
伤心是必然的．．．也是那老土的一句话，时间会把伤口复原的．．．
Monday, January 19, 2009
PIG CAN SWIM!
Yes! Pig can swim! Me~
After last weekend, I'm totally exhausted. SUKAD on Saturday and fitness test on Sun.
Participating in SUKAD was fun! Although it's inter-USM sports competition, but for swimming event, it's more to "Inter USM Lifeguard Corps Swimming Competition", lol~ Most of the participants are LGs. I got 2 medals, 1 silver for 400m freestyle & another silver for 200m IM. Swimming side to side with a national swimmer ain't easy because the pressure was big and you'll never see her swimming besides you (she had gone far away in front of you). But it's my pleasure to swim with her, see the real power of national swimmers.
Sunday morning woke up at 6am and prepared for LG fitne ss test. As usual, a slice of peanut butter spread bread, a big cup of water and 2 bananas, my scource of energy! Afraid of failing I keep doing plunge in, so stupid d. This is the 2nd time I passed fitness test, last sem failed by 1 second, so sad nia. But doing replacement is good. I encourage juniors to fail fitness test so they can swim 2000m++ every week. It's a good training.
I like this sem's swimming pool as I can swim without stress and bonding to any responsibility... My love to swimming is back and I don't need any divorce with it now. Ha~
After last weekend, I'm totally exhausted. SUKAD on Saturday and fitness test on Sun.
Participating in SUKAD was fun! Although it's inter-USM sports competition, but for swimming event, it's more to "Inter USM Lifeguard Corps Swimming Competition", lol~ Most of the participants are LGs. I got 2 medals, 1 silver for 400m freestyle & another silver for 200m IM. Swimming side to side with a national swimmer ain't easy because the pressure was big and you'll never see her swimming besides you (she had gone far away in front of you). But it's my pleasure to swim with her, see the real power of national swimmers.
Sunday morning woke up at 6am and prepared for LG fitne ss test. As usual, a slice of peanut butter spread bread, a big cup of water and 2 bananas, my scource of energy! Afraid of failing I keep doing plunge in, so stupid d. This is the 2nd time I passed fitness test, last sem failed by 1 second, so sad nia. But doing replacement is good. I encourage juniors to fail fitness test so they can swim 2000m++ every week. It's a good training.
I like this sem's swimming pool as I can swim without stress and bonding to any responsibility... My love to swimming is back and I don't need any divorce with it now. Ha~
Sunday, January 4, 2009
Very kiam siap? :-O
Long awaited 2 weeks! At last 2 weeks' gone.
And tonight I finally knew, I just deserved some Coca-cola cans from Europe...
That's all for me from my friend! Aikkksss.....
Anyway thanks la. Happy you're back safely and thanks for protecting the cans all the way as well. :-*
And tonight I finally knew, I just deserved some Coca-cola cans from Europe...
That's all for me from my friend! Aikkksss.....
Anyway thanks la. Happy you're back safely and thanks for protecting the cans all the way as well. :-*
Cleanin' up!!
Cleaning up my blog!
Eventhough I've been blogging for some times but no one knows I have a blog, hehe..
So now I'm trying to 'revive' my blog.
Eventhough I've been blogging for some times but no one knows I have a blog, hehe..
So now I'm trying to 'revive' my blog.
Monday, October 20, 2008
End of semester again
1st semester of 2nd year.
The memory is still fresh in my mind when I first got into this school. It's just like yesterday but actually a year passed.
This semester is quite challenging. Assignments, hot weather (it's getting hotter!), a lot of rushing to classes etc... I have to say good bye with two of my close friends. Reluctant but nothing I can do. People come and go. I want to go for student exchange program too but when I think of this problem, it held me back. I don't want to be apart with anyone of my close friends.
I knew my EQ is very low. I've argued with somebody else. At last I realise that so stupid. Doesn't matter anymore who's right or wrong, but in the end I still have to rely on him and anger is not allowed in this instructor-student relationship. I regret after the matter, but what else can do? Things already happened, just take it as a lesson.
People grew up and things changed. People dreamed, but how many of them can reach the dream?
I truely believe that the more you want something, the bigger posibility you won't get it.
The memory is still fresh in my mind when I first got into this school. It's just like yesterday but actually a year passed.
This semester is quite challenging. Assignments, hot weather (it's getting hotter!), a lot of rushing to classes etc... I have to say good bye with two of my close friends. Reluctant but nothing I can do. People come and go. I want to go for student exchange program too but when I think of this problem, it held me back. I don't want to be apart with anyone of my close friends.
I knew my EQ is very low. I've argued with somebody else. At last I realise that so stupid. Doesn't matter anymore who's right or wrong, but in the end I still have to rely on him and anger is not allowed in this instructor-student relationship. I regret after the matter, but what else can do? Things already happened, just take it as a lesson.
People grew up and things changed. People dreamed, but how many of them can reach the dream?
I truely believe that the more you want something, the bigger posibility you won't get it.
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